Martin Luther King said “The only way to convert an enemy into a friend is through love.”
Think about it. . . even in your family – or work – conquering or winning an argument with force doesn’t breed love or peace. At the best, it might lead to submission. That might get you the behavior you want in the moment (as in punishing a child to get them to stop doing something you don’t want them to do), but in the long run, it breeds resentment from the other person.
So the next time you’re in the midst of an argument or a power struggle of some kind – even if it’s with your child, think about the long-term effects of your response. What do you want from that relationship? If it’s love and respect, be sure you approach the issue with that in mind.