It’s not uncommon for people to sit in my office, feeling very down emotionally, and tell me they believe they are weak. I don’t believe any of us are weak. We are often vulnerable, however. One of benefits of therapy is to acknowledge our vulnerabilities. We can only become stronger when we can identify those areas – then decide how we can change them.
When we say the things that others want to hear, regardless of our own truth, or allow others or our environment to dictate how we behave, we might see ourselves as weak. As I’ve studied human life and explored my own sense of spirituality, I’ve come to understand that most of us have to go through these periods in order to experience how that feels. Our world is one where we often learn from opposites, so when we’re finally tired of feeling the way we feel when we aren’t living in our own truth, we’ll be motivated to change. That’s a process – and often a very slow one. But when we recognize that it’s OK to be who we really are, we’ll naturally be drawn to making the choices we need to make.
People respect strength, but they identify with vulnerability. Vulnerability is not weakness. It’s getting in touch with our humanity.
Strength is operating from effectiveness – with integrity and truth.
Here’s an affirmation of strength I’ve found and use: I am a valuable, important, significant being. I am here for a purpose. If anything or anyone gets in the way of my getting on purpose, I do not have to allow them to interfere. I say that with respect and kindness.