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Cinderella is a Spiritual Story

I’ve posted a couple of things from the book I recently read by Marianne Williamson – The Law of Divine Compensation. One of my favorite sections is where she compares the story of Cinderella to how abundance is available – and often right in front of us – if we can just allow ourselves to be open to it, rather than look through the lense of lack.  The excerpt is below.  I think it’s brilliant!  (And it helps me feel better about allowing my granddaughter to watch all the princess movies)  🙂

While reading Cinderella to my daughter when she was growing up, I was always struck by the deep wisdom that’s in the story. The Fairy Godmother didn’t order a new dress out of a catalog; she transformed Cinderella’s rags into a ball gown. The Fairy Godmother didn’t order a limo; she turned a pumpkin into a coach and mice into horsemen. Whatever Cinderella needed, the universe took care of it.

Cinderella’s purity of heart called forth the Fairy Godmother— that is, the spirit within— and the Fairy Godmother called forth everything she needed. The Fairy Godmother’s wand? True, loving thought. The light her wand casts onto things? True understanding. The magic she works? The miracles that result. The Fairy Godmother didn’t have to order a dress or call out for a car because the universe miraculously transformed existing material. That’s how the universe operates: whatever already is, is the platform for what could be. Cinderella, despite her circumstances as a servant, had the mind-set of the miraculous. And so miracles came to her.

In one video of the story, Cinderella becomes upset after her stepmother and stepsisters have gone to the ball. She’s on the driveway crying, when the Fairy Godmother finally appears. Cinderella exclaims, “Oh, Fairy Godmother, I thought you’d never get here!” to which the Fairy Godmother responds, “Oh, that’s not true, or I couldn’t have come.” How metaphysical is that!

Our souls are Cinderella, the ego is the wicked stepmother, and the Holy Spirit is our Fairy Godmother. Each of us has a “wicked stepmother,” i.e., ego mind, seeking to obstruct our good. And each of us has a “Fairy Godmother,” i.e., Holy Spirit, working miracles to fulfill our heart’s desire whenever our attitudes are pure.

According to A Course in Miracles, “Miracles are everyone’s right, but purification is necessary first.” There is only one category of impurity that keeps miracles at bay, and that is lovelessness. The Fairy Godmother didn’t appear to the stepmother or the ugly stepsisters, because their thoughts were mean. They had plenty of material resources, but they did not have love in their hearts. Thus all their plans came to naught.    

PURITY OF HEART, then, is the miracle-worker’s greatest engine of wealth creation. There are three spiritual steps involved in the metaphysical transformation of lack into abundance: (1) be grateful for what you already have, (2) clean up whatever you need to clean up, and (3) allow yourself to want what you want. The three together are a powerful brew.

–Williamson, Marianne (2012-11-27). The Law of Divine Compensation: On Work, Money, and Miracles.

So what does this have to do with emotional health?  EVERYTHING!  If we believe we are in a world of finite resources and have a negative attitude about the economy or the people and situations we encounter, then we’ll remain victims of our environment forever.  But if we know that anything we need is at our fingertips, if we come from a positive, loving place in attitude and actions, then we can take personal responsibility for moving forward.

Loving with Attachments

I’ve come to believe that the only real love is that which is unconditiional. While we may all strive for this, we’re all human and often fall short of doing so. I just throw this out there as food for thought. Digest it today:

When we love with attachments, we demand that “you be the way I want you to be”. And if you’re not, then I won’t be happy. And if only you were more like me I wouldn’t have to be so upset right now.”

When I look at those statements, it’s clear they put the responsibility for the person’s happiness on the other person. That, I believe is the key to unconditional love. Taking responsibility for what I feel and how I choose to share it.

Get Outside Your Own Head

One of my favorite quotes: My head is like a bad neighborhood and I shouldn’t stay in there alone!

I’ve shared that with many people over the years & what it’s always meant to me is that if I try to analyze my problems myself without verbalizing them to a trusted friend or therapist – or even just writing them down – they just seem to take on more & more power over me and I get even more screwed up.

In the 12 Step Program we talk about getting outside our own heads, which I’ve taken to mean something similar – and also understood that if I carry the message on to others, then I will learn and grow more myself – and often I will at least understand better how to handle my own problems.

At times when I’ve had some real hurt in my life I’ve prayed & meditated to help me stay in love as I dealt with it. Then, invariably, a friend or family member shares some very difficult problems in their lives. I’ve “gotten outside my own head” and reached out to them. I’ve put myself in their place and felt their pain.  As a therapist, I’ve learned the art of being compassionate while detaching at the same time, so I can remain objective enough to be helpful. It’s much more difficult with friends and family, but I’ve been able to use that skill to be there for my friends.

During the time I was focusing on my friends and their issues, I totally forgot my own problems. And then – the issue I’d been working through just turned completely around and started working well again. I know it won’t be that way forever but I’ve learned to live in the moment, and take joy in the good times when they are here without waiting for the other shoe to drop.

The part that amazes me is that I just know part of the reason it turned around is because I let go of it for a time, and gave from love to someone else who needed it. I swear what you put out there comes back to you!

The Principle of Divine Compensation

I recently read Marianne Williamson’s THE LAW OF DIVINE COMPENSATION: On Work, Money and Miracles.  I’ve always loved her work, but this one really speaks to me where I need it most right now.  I’m just going to share a little of it for now.  I hope to share more of her concepts in later blogs.

Excerpt from book:

“As an expression of divine perfection, the universe is both self-organizing and self-correcting. To whatever extent your mind is aligned with love, you will receive divine compensation for any lack in your material existence. From spiritual substance will come material manifestation. This is not just a theory; it is a fact. It is a law by which the universe operates. I call it the Law of Divine Compensation.

Just as there are objective, discernible laws of external phenomena, so there are objective, discernible laws of internal phenomena. The law of gravity, for instance, is not just a “belief.” It is true whether or not you believe it. Spiritual laws are not just beliefs, either; they are descriptions of how consciousness operates.

Once we know this law-that there is a natural tendency of the universe to improve all things-then we lean naturally into the arms of God and allow Him to lift us up. We surrender our thoughts, then He uplifts our thoughts, then our experiences change. The practical issue is whether we choose thoughts that activate or deactivate the Law of Divine Compensation. We activate it with every loving thought. We deactivate it when we give more credence to the reality and power of the material world than to the reality and power of love.

If our circumstances tempt us to think thoughts such as, “I must not be good enough,” “I will never have another chance,” “It will take forever for this to right itself,” or “I hate whoever is to blame for this,” then miracles, though they are programmed into the nature of the universe, cannot make their way into our awareness. With every thought we think, we either summon or block a miracle. It is not our circumstances, then, but rather our thoughts about our circumstances, that determine our power to transform them.

The Law of Divine Compensation applies equally to all situations, but in this book we will focus on its application to money and the lack thereof. In a time of economic uncertainty-when circumstances make it particularly tempting to believe in the scarcity of the material plane over the abundance of the spiritual-our capacity to think differently is the miracle-worker’s edge. Bills stare you in the face. Foreclosure looms. Credit is wrecked. Jobs aren’t available. And with all that comes chaos on many fronts. Who doesn’t need a miracle then?”

–THE LAW OF DIVINE COMPENSATION: On Work, Money and Miracles