Shame is like mold . . . it grows the best in the dark!
If you open it to the light (by sharing your shame with someone who can be trusted), shame loses it’s power. It’s best if you share with someone you know can be trusted – someone with whom you have experience that they can listen without judgment and without telling others.
Secrets and shame go hand-in-hand. In the 12 Step Programs we say, “You’re only as sick as your secrets”. The only way to be truly free is to not have to carry a load of secrets.