This is Why We Practice

I feel very strongly about practicing what I preach.  When I was running addictions programs, I worked the 12 step program with a sponsor, just as I expected my clients to do.  Now, when I encourage meditation, good nurtrition and excercise, I make sure I do the same. 

None of us are perfect.  We all have the tendency to slack off when things are going well, myself included.  But that’s where discipline comes in.  We all know that physically, if you work out on a regular basis, your muscles don’t feel as sore, and you feel healthier and better about yourself.  So it is with emotional and spiritual health.  If you know meditation or prayer works to help you  feel better about yourself, feel more peaceful and to deal with the world around you, then build that strength by doing it consistently.  If you continually strive to express how you feel (taking personal responsibility for it – not accusing others of making you feel it), you’ll eventually learn to tolerate those emotions in a healthier way – not letting them control you, but recognizing them as an integral part of your whole self.   And you’ll have stronger communication skills when that important conversation with your boss, your child or your partner needs to take place.  The more you do these things consistently, the stronger you’ll feel when you need it.

Thanks to my friend, Darla, for sharing this article.  It says what I’ve just tried to relay in a much more eloquent way:


You will be called on to expand. And this is why we practice.

I traveled to Dharamshala, India with six friends to meet with The Dalai Lama. It was cell-altering and heart-expanding. (The story is here.)

The week before our arrival, there had been a horrible event in which some monks were murdered — most shockingly, by other monks. The story was on everyone’s mind and in our small, private meeting with His Holiness, the first thing we did was offer our condolences. His response captivated me.

“Ah, yes, thank you for your thoughts,” he said. “This is why we practice, for times like these when compassion is so necessary.” He didn’t nod in mutual disdain. He didn’t show any drama. He was soft and … practical.

This is why we practice.

For times like these.

You don’t need to forgive until you need to forgive. You don’t need nerves of steel until you need nerves of steel. You don’t need to call on your reserves of compassion, or fortitude, or faith until you’ve used up everything else.

This is why we practice.

This is why, that even when life is ambling along nicely and there’s food in our spiritual cupboard, we still make sure that we get to yoga, or the reading group, or Sunday services.

When we’re healthy and happy we make sure to dance, we hit the court, we pick up the phone to check in, we drop by with something in hand.

When we’re believing in the fairness and the glory of human nature and the so-called Fates, we keep seeking, and meditating on reality, and praying for healing though nothing obvious ails us.

We keep standing up to make our art even when we could be predictable pedestrians.

Because the day will most certainly come, as it does whether you are a whole-hearted Lover or in denial of Grace, that you will be struck down or ground down by life. It can come in tiny tearing heartbreaks five times a day, just walking through your neighbourhood. It could come in the name of tragedy that could only happen once in a lifetime.

And you will need to withdraw the insights that you put into your heart’s escrow. And you will need to call on your people — the unseen and the ones right in front of you –to help you meet the day.

You will be interrupted. You will be called on to expand. You will be asked who you are and why you are here.

This is why we practice.

-Danielle LaPorte