I have been feeling pretty overwhelmed much of the time lately. I have SO many projects I want to accomplish, several of which I have started, but had to put aside because of time restraints. One of my pet peeves is when people don’t finish something they’ve started, so it bothers me to let things sit undone.
At times like this, I feel as if I’m kind of a fraud, since I am constantly pushing others to let go of such cognitive maladies, so my habit when I feel this way is to allow myself to be open and honest about what I’m going through.
Hope it helps you in some small way too:
Most of you know I’m a huge proponent of the power of gratitude. But sometimes the pressures and disappointments of daily life keep us from appreciating the small things, let alone the big gifts in life. The big ones include our health, our minds, our spirits. They are a gift from God. Learning to self-nurture can help us get into the habit of gratitude. It’s an expression of gratitude – which is a form of love. When we take care of ourselves, we show that we respect and value ourselves.
Nurturing is an attitude toward ourselves of unconditional love – which is the only REAL love anyway. I’m talking about loving ourselves no matter what happens, how we look, what we do (did), or where we are.
Sometimes we worry that if we nurture ourselves the things we need to accomplish won’t get done – if we give in to our own needs, we’ll get lazy. When you feel that way, give it a shot anyway.
I grew up with a very rigid German grandmother, and lived the first 18 years of my life on a farm, with the mindset that you have to be a workaholic if you’re going to be successful. So I know of what I speak.
Yesterday, I didn’t want to do the things on my list. I wasn’t feeling well; I was tired and I didn’t have the energy to do them, but I have that critical voice in my head that says, “you’re not worthwhile if you don’t accomplish something.”
But yesterday, I decided to nurture myself anyway. I sat on the couch and read, I meditated, and I took my granddaughter to her first movie in a theatre. When we came home, I felt like doing some of the things on my list. I accomplished them and even did a little more. I began a chore my husband usually handles – one I really don’t enjoy doing.
Nurturing myself didn’t make me lazy or ineffective. It made me energized and more effective. And I felt worthwhile the entire time – both while I was accomplishing something – AND while I was taking care of myself – because I’m worth it!
So are you!