Are You Making a Living, or Are You Making a Life?

Unfortunately, as humans, we tend to live on auto-pilot.  Many of us have to have a crisis to make ourselves stop and really look at our lives and where we’re going or to appreciate what we’ve had in our lives – sometimes only after we’ve lost whatever that is.

This past several years, things have been rough for everyone. The stress level appears to be at an all-time high for most of us.  We can tend to develop tunnel vision to try to get back on track, by working harder to get whatever we feel is lacking and focusing on the powerlessness we often feel when it doesn’t produce the outcome we were looking for.  We’re so focused on “making a living” that we might be ignoring the real purpose of our existence here.

Many  pray for God (or whatever they believe in) to give them more – a new job, more money, a new relationship . . . it’s like they see God as a Big Santa Claus in the Sky who brings them gifts if they’re good.  These people operate from the concept that they lack what they think will make them happy, and something or someone from the outside has to show up so they can get it.

Some also tend to believe that if they become more spiritual, life will become easier, and THEN they’ll find happiness.

That has not proven completely true for me.  What I’ve found is that the closer I get to a higher sense of spirituality, the more difficult my path becomes at times. The tests get harder. But that doesn’t mean I’m less happy.  As a quote by Wayne Dyer says, if I believe it will work out, I will see opportunities. If I believe it won’t work out, I will see obstacles.

If my years of studying the Afterlife has taught me anything, it’s how I want to live my life – here and now.  I want to live from love in the moment as much as I can, not be too attached to any specific outcome for what I’m dealing with in that moment, and to look for the miracles and the opportunities that might not have shown themselves if I hadn’t had my current crisis.

There’s such freedom in just allowing myself to be who and where I am right now; and doing what I can for now without looking too far into the future.  A part of being me is getting outside my own head as much as I can, and really being with others as they experience their own trauma.

The more energy I put into all the what-if’s and worry about how to handle something that hasn’t even happened yet, the less energy I’ll have to deal with what comes up in the moment.  The more I worry about whether I’ll get something I really want or the more I get upset about what I don’t have, the less I’ll even notice what I DO have.  I just want to live my life today.  It’s all any of us really have anyway.

When I can do those things – stay in the moment to experience my life and get outside my own head and focus on others occasionally, that’s where I find happiness.  It’s not “out there” somewhere.

I saw this quote from Senator Cory Booker of New Jersey a few years ago.  I’m sharing the parts of the quote that represent what I’m trying to say here:

Before you speak to me about your religion, first show it to me in how you treat other people . . . teach me about it through your compassion for your neighbors . . . I’m not as interested in what you have to tell or sell as in how you choose to live and give.

I hope each of you is able to focus more on the life you have right here and now, than on what you lack. I won’t promise it will always be easy, but it IS a simple concept: the abundance of the Universe is unlimited. If we live in the consciousness of Love and the awareness of our gratitude or each little miracle in our lives, more will show up than we ever dreamed possible.