What is My Purpose in Life?

I occasionally have clients who believe they are wasting their lives because they haven’t figured out what their “purpose” is.

These people seem to think there is some great, magnificent accomplishment they’re here for. If they haven’t figured out what that is by a certain age, they tend to beat themselves up, thinking they are letting God (or family) down.

After several years of studying the Afterlife, I now understand that we are not necessarily here to accomplish a task or pursue a special talent. Although this may be a part of the process for some of us, and we may be on a path to learn more about a specific characteristic (ie, compassion, accepting or giving unconditional love, self-love, etc). But primarily, we are simply here to experience life as a human being. That experience will likely propel our Higher Self on to new awareness, but we don’t necessarily have to accomplish anything to do this.

If there is some direction you are supposed to move towards, the door will open. If something you had hoped would be your “purpose” doesn’t work out, then it wasn’t the right path for you. Another door will appear when it’s supposed to and you need to be conscious enough to see that it’s cracked open.

I heard a profound statement about this in a podcast with Carolyn Myss a couple of years ago:   Rejection is protection.

I understood her to mean that if we’re not supposed to go in a certain direction, we will be rejected. We can feel the disappointment, but if we dwell on it and keep trying to go through the same door in the same way, we’ll just prolong the pain.

This doesn’t mean that ultimately, we’re not going to end up there. We may or we may not. And maybe there is a different direction that will eventually lead to the same place – or to an even better one.

Bob Olson addresses this very eloquently in his book, ANSWERS ABOUT THE AFTERLIFE:
. . . life is about having experiences that our souls are unable to have in the spiritual realm. . . .When a being knows it can die, it changes everything. It creates fear and alters choices . . .many folks believe that something has gone wrong in life when they meet challenges (disappointment, tragedy, suffering, loss, and pain), but life is about experiences, both positive and negative. . . .

Bob goes on to say that if we can accept that life is about experiences rather than about being happy and easygoing all the time, then we’ll be able to understand our lives here (and the answers in his book) more fully.

My hope is to be as aware and conscious as possible so I don’t miss the lessons. But the test is not pass or fail. We will each still end up where we are supposed to go from here. We may take a detour or two, but we can’t screw this up.

So relax and enjoy the ride!