Reflections and Looking Forward

Each year at this time, I post something similar to this message. This year is special because this may be my last blog – at least as a therapist, as I’m slowing down my practice and will be retiring in mid-2019. I’m not sure what is next for me. I love to write, so I may be back, but in a different format. Until then, please read on:

I don’t believe in making New Year’s resolutions because they’re usually just a wish that lasts a few days or maybe weeks into the new year & then forgotten or given up on. I try to live my life by being a better person today than I was yesterday – more open to love and to listening to whatever the Universe has in store for me.

What I do believe in is stopping occasionally to reflect on all that I have been blessed to experience. That includes many positive, loving experiences. But it also includes a lot of times that I didn’t feel so positive, and I wasn’t so loving, and times I couldn’t wait to get through. At this point in my life, I understand (even in the moment) that I will be grateful for those times eventually – and sometimes I can even say thank you in the middle of them.

I know that some people don’t agree that things happen for a reason and I certainly want to honor their belief. My experience, though, is that those are usually people who don’t always take advantage of those difficult moments. The hard times can become lessons, but only if we allow them to be. One of the reasons we have to experience things repeatedly is because we don’t always take personal responsibility for them enough to recognize how we can avoid going that same direction the next time.

Mindlessly setting goals that I won’t be able to fulfill will not help me make changes in my life. Staying in the moment, living consciously and mindfully, is the only way to get there eventually. So instead of making a bunch of resolutions this year, make a commitment to be more aware of each moment, beginning now. You won’t remember to do it every moment of the new year, but when you catch yourself living in the past or future, just gently bring your mind back to what’s happening now. We can all get through anything for a moment. The design of this existence is successful because we are each unique and beautiful in our own way; traveling our own path.

But also remember that the more connection we have with others, the more we learn and the more abundance we have in our lives. The fact that many of you have, on occasion, taken me into your confidence and trusted me with your deepest feelings and concerns humbles me.  I’m so honored to have had all of you in my life. Thank you.

Wishing each of you enough peace to find your center; enough pain to find your strengths; and enough love to be able to recognize your own worth in this world.